The art of self-esteem is one that needs to be mastered in order to attain significant success in any field or level of life. Having respect for yourself and your abilities is one thing no one else or the world itself can do for you.
What you feel and see about yourself will definitely radiate back to your environment and that determines how people treat you. If you place no value for yourself, do not expect to get it from anyone else, people will only reciprocate what you offer to the plate.
Most people end up having low self-esteem because they make the tremendous mistake in allowing their self-image rest on the approval of others. They either leave it on the hands of relationship partners, parents, boss, or even social media. Nothing is more dangerous than this. You don’t earn self-esteem, you create it.
And it can be done by following these powerful tips:
1. Accept your personality
The first step in attaining a formidable self-esteem is realising that no two individuals are the same. You must come to the realisation that everyone has unique personalities and character that distinguishes them from the rest of the world, and you’re no exception.
Your personality is your distinctive mark, it sets you apart from the park and creates what makes you special. To grab hold of a good self-esteem, you must learn to accept and appreciate yourself with all your flaws.
Do not see your personality as inferior to anyone’s neither should you think there’s something not right with you because you behave differently from the others, embrace your uniqueness and rather than trying to be like someone else, be the best you can be.
2. Focus on your strength
Many people are fond of counting their mistakes and inadequacies. They spend time ruminating on all the things wrong with them and all the things they can’t do. Apart from this having a great toll on self-esteem, this also drains a lot of mind energy and creates a reality they’ve imagined. They end up being sloppy and find themselves a life they’d want to escape from.
To attain and maintain a good level of self-esteem, it’s of outmost importance that you realise that trying to attain perfection is a lost cause. Rather than focusing on the wrong things and the things you can’t do, focus and concentrate your thoughts on the things you can do.
Take out a pen and a piece of paper and write down all the things you can do. It doesn’t have to be grand or big, it could be the simplest of things that doesn’t require any extra effort or talent. You’d be surprised by the many people who can’t do the things you’ve written down.
3. Avoid self-occupation
Most people think the world revolves around them and feel people are concerned enough to observe their life. Nothing could be further from the truth.
Get off your head and realise that people are too engrossed in trying to fix their lives than sparing you a fraction of their day in giving a hoot about you.
So you made a mistake at work or said something you ought not to have said at the meeting and everyone laughed, then you spend the entire day thinking about how you’ve embarrassed yourself. Well guess what? People probably forgot about your silly embarrassment the moment it happened and still don’t give a sweat about you.
Avoid drawing too much attention to yourself in your mind, take life easy and learn to blow things off. This will free you of so many restrictions.
4. don’t compare yourself with others
When you keep looking to find things people can do better than you, trust me, you’d find many!
The key is not to look at all. While it’s good to appreciate people for their skills, it’s wrong to judge yourself based on their ability.
Rather than finding all the things people can do, divert that energy in improving yourself and realise that there are things you can do that no one else can.
5. Dress properly
Dressing properly doesn’t necessarily mean putting on expensive apparels and clothing. It simply means putting on something that you’re comfortable with.
When you feel you look good, you feel more confident and less self-conscious.
6. continually improve yourself
Personal development is a daily assignment everyone must engage in. It’s the only difference between where you are and where you want to be. Do not just wake up and browse through the day without a definitive goal, set up daily task for the day that you’ll like to work on about yourself.
Just the way I stated in number 2 about writing down your strengths, also write down the aspect of your life that you’re not comfortable with and you’d like to see changes. Then make out long and short term goals to actualise this.
Don’t ever feel it’s impossible to change anything about your life, that’s a wrong notion. Everything under the sun has been resolved not to have a permanent effect, everything is subject to change and alteration.
7. Speak with random people.
While socialisation and getting to meet new people might be a bane to introverts, it’s a very powerful inspiration for building a good self-esteem if harnessed properly.
The most difficult part in meeting with new people is the problem with not knowing what to say. But that shouldn’t be an issue as it isn’t your job to figure out everything. Just go with the flow and do not try too hard to impress the person you’re speaking with.
Speaking with random people which includes asking for guides or direction can help train you for unexpected situations or circumstances.
When you get uncomfortable or shy to speak with someone new, always remind yourself…
“What’s the worst that can happen?”